LOL Thanks walnut it was soo funny.
sondacop it's my mom she is the queesn of negativity. Nothing makes her happy. She wasn't happy about the other ones either at first. I should be used to it. by now. LOL AND she was hurt because we told Ed's mom first!!!
I forgot I'm in very good company as far as my age goes on this thread!! My oldest daughter (step from first marriage that I raised from age 2) reminded me her bio mom is same age just had a baby and smoked through the whole pregnancy and she and the baby are just fine. I'm in WAY better shape now than I was before!! Not to mention I'm not getting screamed at all day long by a psychotic man! This baby is going to be wonderful!!

I doubt very many - usually, if you're considering termination, you'll have a definitive diagnostic test performed (CVS or amnio), not just a screening that tells you you're at high risk or an ultrasound that can only see physical attributes. Plus, at 20+ weeks, depending on where you live, terminating can be a challenge. I had a good friend who had a difficult first pregnancy. She started with twins and lost one early on. They then did the screenings, which came back with very high risks for something (I don't recall, but it was not Down Syndrom, but something else chromosomal), and another screening revealed a serious heart deformity. They continued with tests and consulting with specialists and were told that the baby could survive, but it would essentially be in and out of surgeries for much of its first few months and likely wouldn't live more than a couple of years. That was not the life they wanted for their child, so they decided to terminate, but by the time the decision was made, they had to go 3 states away to find a doctor that would (could?) perform the procedure. It was a terribly difficult and traumatic time for her (obviously and understandably!), and I wouldn't wish it on anyone ever. I very highly doubt many women would take the decision to terminate lightly and would base such a decision solely on increased risk without diagnostic testing completed.

Well, Kayla, you know I'm an old geezer compared to you. And even with my last pregnancy I was still older than you are now.

I can sympathize about your mom's reaction. I have always dreaded telling my mom. With the first one she was distressed because my husband and I are interracial and she had a hard time coping with the idea of a biracial grandchild. Fortunately, she got over that pretty quickly. But even after that, her response to me being pregnant has always been less than enthusiastic. A couple of times the initial response was, "I'm sorry" and this pregnancy definitely was not a happy announcement to her because of my age, in part. But she was 37 when she had me (her last) so it's not like it's a totally foreign concept to her.

Partly, though, her problem with me is because I'm a firm believer in natural childbirth and she can't stand what she sees as me "bucking the system". Like your mom, she's elderly, and in her day, that kind of thing just wasn't done. She also isn't really a kid person, which is kind of hilarious since she had 8 of us.

Anyhoo, I'm just glad that you are in such an emotionally healthier situation with this pregnancy and can enjoy it!

i was offered amniocentesis today cause i'm so old. oh well. i declined. also declined the other screening thru blood testing for now. if my husband wants, i'll do the blood test. i cant see that we would do anything differently anyways.

my midwife didnt want to check for a heartbeat yet but will try in a couple of weeks. kindof bummed about that, but i guess i can wait

ps, what is it with unsupportive moms? my mother in law was really supportive but my own mom was just awful. (not about my age, just in general. she's a troubled person)

pps, jill this seems like a great time to buy real estate if you can swing it. good luck!

anyone have this problem? my clothes dont fit right (too baggy from losing weight), but i know i'm going to pop and should probably be looking at maternity pants. i dont know what size to get cause my butt, etc will probably continue to get smaller (i hope!) i look pretty ridiculous right now and need to find something to wear that looks nice. it seems kindof shortsighted to just go and buy something that fits right now and wont work in 4 weeks. sigh

On maternity clothes, I am NO help! I tried on a few pairs of maternity pants a couple weeks ago (don't need them yet since I have no bump, but wanted to grab them while tey were on sale), and they were SO baggy on my butt that I couldn't even justify paying the sale price - they looked awful! I may have to stick to knit dresses/long tops and leggings when the time comes.


ha, the foreclosure was a huge bust - new windows and new roof needed are one thing, but this place had water damage and mold (I didn't even go in the basement because I didn't want to be breathing it in), which is more than we are prepared to take on. We'll keep looking, but we really want to be in Fairfax County, and even with our budget of $330k, we will very likely not be able to find much there in livable condition. I hate living in such an expensive area (I know, I know, my salary reflects the cost of living here, so it woul dbalance out no matter where we go, but it's still frustrating that 1/3 of a million dollars can't buy us a nice house!).

Walnut, I got my maternity clothes on craigslist.com. I paid $50 for 3 huge, black bags full of clothes. I was able to wear some of them and the others, I might fit into later, I guess. I'm all about comfort. LOL At the maternity store, they want waaaay too much money, IMO. I did find some sweat pants that were maternity. Maybe those would work for you? Super comfy

Jillybean, one of my best friend's lives in Fairfax Co., and is going thru the same frustration. Yuck. You'd think with our housing ecomony the way it is that you guys would get a break on the high costs of living there. Anyway, are you trying to move before the baby arrives??

Oh, I did find some cute maternity tops and dresses at Sears and JCPenney - they didn't have a ton of selection in store, but they were on sale (some even clearance), so I grabbed them. Pants are a whole different can of worms :P

If we're going to make the move, I would rather do it before the baby arrives so that we wouldn't later have to up and change daycare, doctors, etc., due to the change in location. We'll keep our eyes and ears open for a few months, and if we don't come across any stellar deals, we'll just stay put for now and see how things look when we are later working on baby #2!

wow, eriksgirl~that's a good deal on mat clothes. around here, people itemize each piece of clothing and charge near new prices for them. i guess i'll have to hit the consignment stores and just see if i can find things that look like they'll work for a while. I'm terrible at trying to resell things, but i guess it wouldnt be that hard to reconsign them when i'm done. also liking the idea of tights and knits~that sounds sooo comfy and warm for the winter

housing is the same around here jill. we didnt really get much of a bubble burst. i live in one of the most expensive places in canada, but i truly believe it's worth it. sometimes, you get what you pay for!!

Sweet deal on the clothes!! I'm not even thinking of that yet!! I do have a lot of fat stretchy pants and 2x shirts.

My blood pressure was up a bit today. 135/90. I did have some extra carbs with some eggplant parmersean my mil made me over the past couple days and I've been stressed with all my schoolwork and everything else. Hopefully it'll stay down.

I still have my 3 pairs of maternity jeans (stretchy top) from my last pg in 2008. I am already wearing them, since I am on progesterone suppositories as an IVF support. The suppositories cause my belly to bloat and I look as if I am in my 5th month already. I was surprised that they fit in the legs and butt since I gained 10 kg in the 2 years cycling.
If the pants do get baggy maybe you could have them taken in? I say be comfortable right now.

I say comfort all the way. When I was a stay at home mom I was cotton shorts and big shirts all the way.
I'm a full time student now and I'm thinking my stretchey cotton knit "fat pants" I kept just in case.

I hear ya!! There is no such thing as too much comfort.

Hey Jillybean how did your OB appointment go?

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It's kinda bitter but kinda good too.